Anxiety, panic and depression can be very debilitating. They drain
our energy and make it more difficult to get on with life and do the
things we need to. When severe, anxiety and depression can seriously
cripple a person’s ability to lead a meaningful life.
Yet, it does not have to be this way. Forgiveness can help us be free
of anxiety and depression and reduce the tendency to panic. At the very
least Forgiveness can make it much easier for us to manage these
issues.
How Forgiveness Helps
When we look at the causes of anxiety and depression our thinking
processes are often part of the problem. Anxiety becomes habitual when
we spend too much time having worrying and frightening thoughts. Our
body then gets into very alert and vigilant state. This means our our
body is being flooded with the types of hormones, which makes it even
more likely that we will think anxious thoughts. By putting our nervous
system on “alert” we tell our nervous system to look for those things
which might go wrong (or are going wrong) and to not look for things
that are going right. Our perspective becomes one-sided, and distorted
towards the negative, without us even realising it.
Likewise thoughts of doom and gloom, such as feeling stuck in a
situation with no way out or no hope for a better future can also become
habitual. Such thoughts cause our body to be flooded with the types of
hormones which make us feel sluggish, lacking in energy or enthusiasm
and even more likely to have despairing and unhappy thoughts.
By giving us a way to change or interrupt our habitual thought
patterns Forgiveness allows us to make radical positive changes. It
helps us to cope with the things which we find worrying or fearful and
it also helps us find hope and new possibilities in situations where we
feel stuck. Yet Forgiveness can take us further than this – much
further.
Practising Forgiveness
Forgiveness can produce deep and powerful changes in our attitudes,
beliefs and in our thinking habits. It can set us free from the past so
that we can not only face the future, we can go forward to create a
better future. Forgiveness helps us break through the thought patterns
which create fear, anxiety, depression and panic.
Practising Forgiveness helps flood our system with positive, life
enhancing feelings. These positive feelings and the associated hormones
make it easier to see and enjoy the good things in life. This in turn
makes it easier to become even more forgiving. Forgiveness also makes it
easier to feel like reaching out to other people – and reaching out to
others is known to be one of the best ways to reduce stress and anxiety,
and to help people move out of isolation and depression.
Handling Life Without Anxiety, Depression and Panic
What often feeds a sense of anxiety is a feeling of being overwhelmed
and not able to handle life. What this boils down to is really a
feeling of not being able to handle other people. It is usually the
things which other people “might” do or say which make us anxious.
Likewise depression often comes from how we respond to other people’s
behaviour. Perhaps someone has been rude to us, or said something
unkind, or someone we depend on does not seem to like us or approve of
us. If we do not know how to manage our feelings about such events then
these can build up till we feel hopeless and depression sets in.
Therefore, both anxiety and depression are often triggered by how
well we cope with the demands, expectations and hopes of other people.
However, there is more to it than that. The key to it is not so much
what those people say to us when we don’t do what they want or expect;
they key to it is really what we say to ourselves about it.
Forgiveness Protects Us from Other People’s Behaviour
What we need is something which can sit between us and other people,
or situations, which cause us to feel anxious or depressed. This is what
Forgiveness does. Forgiveness helps to protect us from the affect of
other people’s behaviour.
We might feel anxious because we do not know how to handle someone
behaviour towards us. We might feel worried that they will say something
harsh or rude to us. However, as we learn Forgiveness we see that we
have a way to handle them. We can forgive them and – just as important –
we can forgive ourselves. Through Forgiveness we have a way of handling
or coping with any situation.
We might feel depressed because we do not see a way out of a very
difficult situation. As we learn to forgive we find that we do have a
way out. By looking to how we can forgive the people around us and
forgive ourselves for getting into that situation, our whole perspective
begin to change. New possibilities, which we were blind to before,
become really obvious and accessible as we learn to forgive.
Forgiveness Helps us Be Free of Fear
By learning how to forgive, we begin to discover that we have an
inner freedom which we perhaps didn’t even know was there. It is that
inner freedom which enables us to find happiness even in difficult
situations. It is like we rise above circumstances and find an inner
strength and new abilities to handle situations and to handle other
people and their behaviour.
Through Forgiveness we start to lose a lot of our fear of other
people and our fear of life. We begin to become kinder to ourselves and
kinder to those around us. Does this cause them to behave differently
towards us? Very often it does, but we have the inner strength and inner
freedom that we do not need to rely on that. Our inner freedom
liberates us from being a victim of circumstances and enables us to
shape the ways in which we are affected by the people and events in our
life.
Source: http://globalforgivenessinitiative.com/articles/forgiveness-anxiety-panic-depression/?gclid=CjwKEAjw5vu8BRC8rIGNrqbPuSESJADG8RV0SbiGoLPpz9JPyCe7RsrEP3Wn_0w_SxlfOFDFg0jmaRoCU8rw_wcB
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